My Grandmother is full of all kinds of original sayings, some better (“Any move is a big move”) than others (“What the shit??!!”). The former could not be more right. I’ve spent the last two hours dealing with the laborious task of packing. It’s an interesting process because my life consists of two mutually incompatible theories:
1) Keep everything. Every card, letter, photo, book, key, candle, egg shell; everything has a story and should be cherished.
2) It’s absurd to keep anything. Cards, letters, photos, books, keys, candles, especially egg shells do nothing but clutter your drawers, life, and mental health.
As with so many other things in life, balance is the key. The trouble comes in the discerning of what to let go of and what to pack up in a box, only to unload it in yet another drawer. It’s a relatively new problem I suppose. After all, our ancestors a couple generations back didn’t really have to decide if they should throw away their Ace of Base CD case or if it was finally time to let go of a “Volleyball Players Score on Wood” t-shirt. It was more like deciding if old Aunt Bertha would be coming along or not.
There’s a certain comfort that comes from the choice of what to leave behind. Letting go of our superfluous material possessions can be cathartic. But what about emotions? Does leaving behind a photograph mean finally letting go of part of your life? I think that everyday we try to let go of things; resentment, memories, bad habits. If life is anything it’s a series of choices, and it’s interesting to look at it as a struggle to decide what’s worth holding on to and what must be let go.
Of course there are things that happen, things you see or words you hear, which cause the instant realization that no matter what, you won’t ever quite be the same person ever again.
While getting ready to relocate to the Reeve‘s for the rest of the summer, I recently found a favorite card, which says on the front:
When our story is told, and it will be told in song and fable and interpretive dance and puppet show, people will weep with joy and, through sobs, say, “Today we have witnessed love. How can our lives not bettered by this?”
On the inside it says:
Okay, the puppet show response may not be so strong. People may not be ready for puppets.
This card not only has a space in my heart, but will have a new space in a new drawer.
16 comments:
Good thoughts on life Michael. Choices have consequences--from the small ones to the big ones. It's true that sometimes those consequences may never be reversed, but sometimes they can be worked past. That's not to say things are ever the same, but they are different, and hopefully, at the least good.
I still have a spoon....
??? Spoon? There is no spoon (matrix)... Really, I don't get it.
WTF?! Ive been looking for my vball shirt you little punk. I want that back. Those are my memories you are throwing away.
And which Grandmother are you talking about? I assume it is not me, since I never say such words! Anyway, having moved some 30 or so times in my life, I do know what you are going through. I cannot seem to bear letting go of "my stuff." I have found out that a big breath before tossing something away keeps you from passing out! Love you. Grandma
Ah, my friend, I know of your dilemma. My wife is a Preacher's Kid who moved every 2-3 years - she saves nothing. I lived in the same place for 18 years. I keep everything. Moving for us is never small. I guess it keeps us honest, though, because we end up somewhere in the middle. Some we keep, some we pitch, but the beauty is this: we're always adding to the pile.
My vote. Volleyball shirt burned.
-Take a guess
That last comment has to be the greatest comment yet on the Daily Rice. I'll take a mental guess, but won't dare type names. I will not name names.
Thanks for not naming names. Let's just let this one go. Inhale, exhale. Let. It. Go. Please make my life a little bit easier :)
Why can't people just be nice?Love is so much more fun to give!
And that card referenced in the blog was from whom? Just curious!
What about the spoon? I don't get it either.
it was Corrie who gave me the card. it's a great card really. :)
She's a really great girl!
She's not too bad :)
Ive had better
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